How to handle the worst betrayal?

When I first met my husband 5 yrs ago he said he was already divorced from wife #3. It was not until we got engaged and paid for a home out of state that I found out that he wasn't yet. He is a retired cop. He is also 20 yrs older than me! I am disabled for past 35 yrs. I get a small amount of money each month. He promised to leave me his retirement should he die, this was lie #2. I found out all of his other wives 1 & 2 worked outside the home. Wife #2 kept her money, and her families money (she was wealthy). Wife #3 came into marriage with 2 boys one disabled and she had a baby with him when he was in his late 50s. She never worked and spent thousands if dollars. She stole his life savings. Because of this I had a JP wedding and buffet dinner with 6 people paid for by my parents. Every other wife had huge wedding and honeymoon. This man I am married to also gave me . He demands that everything remain solely in his name and I cannot have a car of my own. Even though before we met I had one, let him use it and he smashed it beyond repair. I am living in a community of 60 yrs & older have no children and no friends. Psychiatrist in area I do go but he is elderly and overworked. Nearest one besides this is 2 hrs away. Cannot make appts because no transportation. I feel like a prisoner in my home. My husband is way too controlling. I have asked for divorce but he refuses because he knows he will never get a second chance at a pretty wife. I feel stuck, hurt and abandoned. I have no family only my husband. I have called domestic abuse on him and that didn't work. He works 4 days a week part time outside the home and takes the car. He always sides with his female boss and treats her like she is his wife and not me. I feel he has no right to ask for my money. He should provide for me. He also has cheated on me several times. I found on his email and other places. What should I do?